Yes… I think so. What happens, for example when a sadly past catch up with you or you suffer serious illness or grief?
Are you staying here than? To say what? I see no forum for them since the theory doesn’t exist. The theory of people in pain.
No since the theory is that we are all chosen our own happiness and by thinking in the right way, whatever happens we will stay happy and feeling blessed. But already on my short time on these networks I have met many who belonged to those who wanted to “shine” and did so, and also non egotistically shared their belief with others.
That’s beautiful. But when the “Sorrow” trip a person up, and they cannot shine they stop writing. Many have send me letters so I know that. Now when they are needed us the most they do not stay so we can comfort them. That’s just too sad. I do feel for all these that thought that there only mission in life was to share the light and when they got caught by the shadows they feel ashamed instead of asking for our help. We do not even notice they are gone. New ”believers” will come and replace them.
This is the weakest link in the "shine and light" theory or shall I say religion. There is no place for sadness and sorrow. So that means when your light is gone you have to go too. Make me cry but also frustrated. As long as their spiritual battery keeps them shining they will be here but when it is spent they have to face their own darkness without a ray of light from us, the others.
Many people ought to use their own light to lighten up there own dark shadows instead of getting burned out by giving away ”borrowed ” rays of light. That doesn´t benefit the peace in the world.
No... we must accept that there are dark periods in our lives and we must create space for these feelings ,so we who still has some energy in our batteries can shine for them who need it the most.
These Networks are not a church where we have to say ”Amen”. These fantastic opportunities to come together so many people must allow us to have different opinions and place for everyone. To learn understanding and broaden our horizons That will make us grow.
It must be ”high ceilings” in any ”faith” who want to survive.
We must search to enclose all not exclude. By making people understand that it is OK, as in this case, to stay in a shiny and brightening ”world” even if your own personal life is a hell.
We do understand. Or don’t we?
I have made this group for all of us who are working for a good purpose.; The peace
But dare to admit that life can be a terrible mess where we need the light of others because our own batteries are exhausted. and that is OK. We do not have to leave this "world" we just need ears to listen and eyes that can see.
After all we are just human *smile*
So welcome to the imperfect group that I am proud to belong to *smile*
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This was written more then a year ago, but since the world hasn´t changed the words will still be of vital importance. But maybe not on my network where we have so many other forum to talk.
Anyhow I save it here as a memeory of ipeace *smile*
Hard to break through a shining defence…
Hard to break through a shining defence…
"The Joy is pleasant to share, but if we cannot share our Sorrow we can "die" in one way or another , depending on how much it hurts. So what is more important…?
We just have to look at the suicide statistic. We can drug ourselves to death, or get a long-term depression which is very much to compare with the death... To just mention some destructive options for all those who have not a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold, when life trip them....
My God...I never imagined that something so obvious should be so hard to reach out with. Sometimes I think its no use...This brilliant world i Peace is not real for me... So many here seem to live in another world, a beautiful Saga or something. so far away from the reality that has surrounded me all my life as a social worker but also as an ordinary citizen where I just have to look around or open a news paper to see was real life is all about." (My comment in another discussion)
God forgive me :) but hysterical shining is for me a kind of proof that it is a defence we are up to. That’s why the acceptance for the Sorrow as a part of life just cannot be given its rightful space.
Because if we do, our own Sorrow will catch up with us...What will happen then . We have given away all our tools to deal with it... So of course we are frightened and that leads us to reinforce the light batteries, so that nobody will notice our shadow. But we all throw shadows even those who are dazzled by its own light. Theirs are under laws of nature the darkest . I have seen so many examples of that both here and in real life.
But why do I bother? Yes I have started to analyze that question myself *smile * Why cannot I be satisfied with laughing in “ Just for fun” or other amusing groups? Why cannot I just collect pictures of smiling angels or fairy tales, copy them and add them everywhere and tell myself that I work for peace? Why can not I just buy this shining philosophy share it with others and get to feel important and involved? Why can not I let myself be pleasantly seduced?. How much simpler life would be then. To be in Love with a Picture of life, a Dream, a Hope and caressed by the light and the hand of God..All with my eyes peacefully closed...
The light is needed where the darkness is as most dense
The more shining and brilliant the outside is the darker are the “shadows” inside. Yes I really do agree with C G. Jung in that statement.
Why do we have to shine so extremely and for whom? When often our inside is like a black hole in the sky where no lights can enter and from which it’s impossible to transmit light.
That’s OK. That’s a human sign. We are worth loving anyway or just because….
We are not perfect and our inward is often filled with sorrow which is a characteristic
for being just a human being. To top it all
we are expected to ”shine” From where will the grief and pain take their light ?
No I think we first shall start to help each other to get rid of the ”darkness.” We must have plenty of forum all over the world where we can talk about our shortcomings, traumas and grief. It would prevent many suicides and help in the healing process, reduce the prescription of anti depressive medicine, decrease the violence and all kinds of abuse, and in the long run create problems for the nations to find willing soldiers for their bloody wars.
If we do start to cut down the ”darkness” and people really feel better and regain their balance and harmony they have so much more to give to the world, in the battle for peace and in the struggle for a better life for people in general and children in particular
Today we don’t give enough space to those who struggle to survive . Where can they go?
Are there any links to sites that can help them?
A network for ”dark shadows” for example should have an enormous percent of the world population if there was one. *smile*
Most of us are struggling with our lives and our loved ones without anyone to talk to.. Here, we could make a difference if we focus more on the dark inside than the cheerful external
I do not understand and I will never…
I pray for those who need " the light"; Let us open our door for those who need it most.
For myself I’m pleased if the stars light up my way, meanwhile I’m dealing with the dark sides of life. I should never forgive myself if I didn’t dare to recognize, try to analyze and hopefully do something for those on which the sun rarely shines
I want to conclude with an example.
Recently a blog post of mine was deleted from a female Network with the explanation that it was to SAD. It was a video talking about child abuse to death. Of course that’s a subject that doesn’t exactly make us happy. But it’s the reality, the problem exist even if we try to deny it and make like the ostrich and hide our heads in the sand.
Violence DO exist so also war and other cruelty. Our duty as human beings and humanists are to recognize the problems we are facing, to analyze them with and intention to try to understand so that we can do everything in our power to minimize the damage
At least we have to give it a try. Closing the eyes for the problems is not acceptable
We must shed our light on the dark sides of the life too…where it is most needed
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To feel bad sometimes is perhaps a healthy sign...
We are so afraid of mentally feelings of sickness So we are ready for almost anything just to get "it" to disappear. Alcohol, drugs, extreme sex , happenings and sport exercises,etc Since sad feelings scares us...to death, and many therefore choose , ironically, an anesthetic called addiction, which can lead to death
Many times it may be useful with small "down periods" as a healthy reaction to a sick society, distorted environment at large. or a sorrow based on a loos our general melancholic feelings This daring to remain in the gray area as temporary depression and anxiety create can provide much of a future internal development.
To dare to approach the painful and remain in it long enough to come up with reasons for why we are feeling the way we do…and have time to find constructive ways out. It could be the beginning of a true "cure".
To always say you are feeling good, laugh and slip around on the surface in an ecstatic often artificial joy dizzy. It's probably pretty sick and using addiction to repress unwanted feeling is very destructive So damn funny it is not for anybody. But some are fighting bravely to keep the nausea down and play better theatre.
When the "bad" catch up with them, as it often does, sooner or later, so are their forecasts for the recovery considerably worse. So a bit of temporary sadness and grief will not kill anybody. I am however confident that more people have "laughed" themselves to death. Then "cried" themselves to the grave
That if we do not ask ourselves in time; What`s the matter and take necessary action
"The Show Must Go On" attitude ,has caused many to perish
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